The Self-Care Secret at your Fingertips
Self-care should not come at a high cost. If you’re adding more to your to-do list, and it's stressing you out, does it qualify as self-care? Self-care should be win-win with a high payoff in return for your time, effort, or expense.
For example, running is extremely beneficial for some, but the risk of injury may not be worth it for others. No one wants to add more stress to their day in the name of “self care.” Things that have more than three or four steps might be out for someone who has a low attention span and may not follow through, as is a common issue for many of my clients who are trying to rise out of depression or have ADHD.
Many people are busy and find themselves multitasking self-care while completing other things. That’s OK if the payoff is joy and growth vs. stress! Self-care is not a “one size fits all” solution.
Here are some mental-emotional self-care tactics that I hear out in the wild on a day-to-day basis. Does any of this appeal to you? Is the payoff worth the time and effort? You decide:
· Play a game
· Do a Puzzle
· Practice a Hobby
· Pray/attend church
· Take a class
· Teach a skill
· Read a book
· Cook/eat healthy meals
· Fix something in your home
· Learn a new language
· Start a blog
· Learn to play an instrument
· Play sports
· Keep a journal
· Call a friend (Love this one)!
· Do yoga
· Try meditation
· Positive Affirmations
· Listen to music
· Watch something funny
· Take a news or social media break
· Go on a walk without technology
· Take a nap
You don’t need internet connection to do EFT. You can do it in the bathroom, in the car, while waiting in line at the grocery store. Tapping is so beneficial, I’ve been teaching my clients more simplified and easy ways to incorporate into their lives, rather than having to schedule it or find childcare, etcetera!
EFT is kind of like acupressure for your emotions. It combines different kinds of traditional therapies combined with some Eastern philosophies, (backed by science), and starts by tapping on the karate chop point, and runs through a sequence of points starting at the top of the head and running down the face and body. The sequence is repeated while focusing on the issue at hand, and eventually the emotion is neutralized.
I tend to give my clients these tips to make EFT tapping easier:
· Pick a favorite point. If there’s a point that works really well for you, it’s OK to just use that point instead of going through the whole recipe.
· Use it before bed as part of a sleep hygiene routine. You’ll be amazed at how much better you sleep! So much junk we deal with during the day will plague you when trying to fall asleep or show up in your dreams.
· Tap in the car (WARNING: I only recommend using this while the car is stopped!). This helps people with driving anxiety or road rage.
· Use it before a stressful situation. If we’re relaxed, we’re better able to show up and serve others with our best selves.
· Use it with your kids and in front of your kids. Model self-care. Equip them with tools that they can use to help themselves when you’re not around.
Listen to the podcast that inspired this blog post! Click here to hear my wife Rose and I discuss self-care and EFT in-depth. And remember: Self-care is not selfish!